When He looks Better than You

It becomes a big complex when your partner looks better than you. He is good looking and you are not. He fell in love with you and swept you off your feet. As years pass by, I have heard that many of my friends start feeling insecure. We also make this statement very often, “Hey what did he see in her?”

Remember it is time to build your self esteem. Low self esteem can be disastrous for a marriage. It can cause resentment, lack of communication and overall lower the quality of the marriage. It can also badly affect your sex life and lead to more distance in the marriage.

So it’s time to work hard on your self esteem. Remember external looks are not everything. There is a lot more to it which makes a person attractive like her intelligence, her sense of humour and even her caring nature. Love yourself and be confident about the good qualities that you have.

Be transparent in your interaction. Build your relationship with your spouse on trust and mutual respect. Focus on your good points. Find out something that you are good at and start working on it. Keep yourself well groomed or tuned out all the time. Everybody is not blessed with good looks, but you can polish yourself up by taking good care of yourself.

There are a lot of things that both of you may enjoy doing together. It may be a walk in the evening, some sports, gardening, playing a game of scrabble. Make it a bonding point between the two of you. Enjoy the little time that you get to spend together. Have faith in your spouse. Don’t be clingy. Give him enough space. By being constantly suspicious you are driving your man to cheat. So be balanced and have believe in yourself.