Dealing With Children

Young mothers these days are getting more and more ambitious in their career, so they are hardly left with any time to enrich and discipline the lives of their children.

Every woman wants to be successful as a parent and would be proud to have focused children who are achievers and excellent young citizens of the nation. Tweens and teens are difficult period for growing children and their parents. Children go through puberty, face huge academic pressure, demand everything that their peers have and now they are getting into early relationships too. For them having a good time means smoking, trying out liquor and trying out sex. Having everything early in life makes them depressed, silent and they are just not aware how to handle it.

Some mothers are always in a hurry for their kids to grow up and wants to make them independent as soon as possible so that they get some free time for themselves. But my advice would be there is nothing more effective in holding your child close and making a child feel that you are a going to be there for him till the time he is matured, grown up enough and on his feet to take care of himself. If you don’t show such bonding your child is definitely going to break away. Trust between a mother and her children are important.  After a certain stage you will definitely realize how important is your child’s development as comapred to your career because if you are not attached to your child then your child is never going to be attached to you.

If you are a full time working mother you should make more effort in making the child understand that he or she is more important than your career growth or work. If you are working from home you should make your child sit beside you and do some painting or may be his home work. Never neglect your child studies, his home works, his extra-curricular activities, and his growth just because you are working and you don’t have the stamina or time for it. Cut down on your own sleep, socializing and finish your work when your child is sleeping, but never compromise on your child’s development because nothing can be more unhappy for a mother if your child does not grow up to be a good professional and a good human being.

Parents should be more alert and vigilant, especially the mothers because she is often closer to her children. You should be aware of your kid’s friends and if possible their parents. Your children must know that there is somebody watching in the background while they lead their lives. Do not allow for sleepover parties till the time you know the friend and the parents. Be a good example to your children. Do not do anything in front of your child that will not be good for his development. Communication lines should always be open.

During the Christmas and New Year parties be extra cautious with your grown up children. There is a fine line between being an indulgent parent and a disciplinarian. Be clear to your children that as a parent you have all right to decide what you will allow and what you won’t. Tell your child that it is important for you to be vigilant because you don’t want your child to have any mishaps in his life.

Kids have the tendency to become directionless. There are times when there seems to be no anchor to your children’s lives. They become irresponsible and irritable when it comes to their academic performance. Plan family activities as much as you can. Nowadays I notice a lot segregation between mother and child. My advice would be some days you should take your child to your office and let him see what you do at your work place; you can take him to some field assignment along with you or may be some friends get together. Be very careful with your own conduct.

Celebrate some festivals together. Go out for sports or some classes together like painting and music.  Remember the time and energy you are investing on your child today is a long term investment in the development of your child into a responsible and good human being. Nothing can compensate for the gift of time and love that you give to your child.