You are in love and plan to marry your partner. But if you don’t pay attention to the ‘unwritten fine print’, it will be easier for the two of you to fall out love.
Our partners’ mannerisms and attitudes can often put us completely off the ‘marriage track’. People who are dating, often wonder if they can carry on with their partners for the rest of their lives.
However, in most cases, they tend to buy the adage, ‘a known devil is better than an unknown devil,’ and stick around for some more time.
Now, you’ve been dating this guy for a while. He’s attentive and affectionate towards you, and a good conversationalist. Also, he’s smart at many things. However, you're not sure whether he’s good enough to marry. There are a couple of irritants that you would like him to change - the annoying way he chews his food, the way he burps after meals, or his-high decibel snoring. What qualities should he possess in order to be permanently ensconced in your life?
It goes without saying that the two of you must get along well. This also means that he takes your suggestions positively - on improving his table manners and getting treated for the nightly snore.
You must make an assessment about your emotional, sexual and financial compatibility. Is your guy emotionally volatile? Does he get upset on minor arguments? Does he have the tendency of making a mountain out of a mole hill? Does he listen to you? Does he get jealous if you strike up a conversation with other men?
Are the two of you sexually compatible? Is he ready for you, when you are? Does he like to try new things to seduce and excite you? Does he, on the other hand demand too much attention and take you away from important work? Does he force you into ‘the mood’ even when you don’t feel like it?
Do you fight about money? What are your financial expectations in the domestic setting? What are his expectations of you? You must have similar monetary goals, else, it won’t work out in the long run.
Will you be able to keep up with the lifestyle that the two of you share? Getting married will change your life to a large extent. It is different from living apart and dating, or from living in together. Would your guy be okay if you suddenly turned into a domesticated being from the party animal you used to be?
Both of you must be able to decide upon having personal petty cash for yourselves and saving common cash for the family. Do pay attention to the 2 Cs and 2 Ps: communication, commitment, persistence, and passion. Have a passion for your partner and constantly keep the flame burning, in and out of the bedroom. Talk about each other’s good and bad characteristics to keep up good communication.