It is time to help our child nurture good habits. When our kids are doing something that we don’t approve of we generally shout and scream and sometimes even punish them. And children react to it with an equal measure of negativity. Sometimes they rebel, sometimes they resent with anger and sometimes they even ignore and put on a ‘don’t care’ attitude. Not only do these reactive strategies fail, I think they can be quite damaging for the development of the children.
Like every adult a child too has negative seeds and wholesome seeds, it depends on the parents which side we need to nurture, the negative side or the positive side. Refuse to energize negativity in the kids. I know as a parent it is easier said than done, but try and stay calm when your child does something wild. Don’t shout at him. Instead make him feel guilty for what he has done or ignore it completely.
Energize the positive aspects of your child. The can be done by appreciating and praising the good acts of the kids. Appreciate your child for his good acts. Qualifying praise on the other hand, gives child direction. A little bit of appreciation motivates a child to behave properly. It also gives a child the direction to understand the qualities that are appreciated. Build your child’s positive qualities and work on it that is the only way you can get rid of the negativities of your child.