How a Man Chooses a Woman

If we psychoanalyze the Indian male's mind, we will find that they look at certain women in a certain way some women in another way. That contributes to a few being categorized as classy. There is something that is pre-conditioned in the look of a person.

A man either categorizes certain women as the hanging around girl fried type or the doe-eyed submissive conventional types of sati savitri looks as the marriage material type. Like for that matter ask any man who is the marriage material type if given a choice between Aishwariya Rai and Mallika Sherawat. With out even thinking twice they will say Aishwariya Rai. Mallika Sherawat undoubtedly has a beautiful body with loads of confidence. On the other hand Aishwariya exudes grace and poise, which is very rare amongst today's actresses. The ultra feminine Aishwarya represents the holy 'bahu material' even before her marriage with Abhishek Bachan. She is the typical take home to meet their mom type. Where as Mallika Sherawat is always seen as an object of lust.

Why is it that Indian man prototypes Mallika Sherawat and Rakhi Sawant as down market hookers but considers siren Mlaika Arora Khan, despite her oomph and skin show, as fashionable and a style icon? In spite of Madhuri Dixit's dhak dhak sensuous dance movements is considered the epitome of Indian beauty. Men still did not think Mallika Sherawat as irrestible in spite of her 17 kisses in her debut film Khwahish.Where as Madhuri still enjoys her diva stature in spite of her bosom thrusting dance numbers. "There is a fine line that distinguishes between vulgar and sensuous. Actors like Madhuri Dixit and Sridevi are classic Indian beauties and cannot be labeled as vulgar. They are the typical Indian beauty with expressive eyes and a killer smile," says theatre personality Rajat Kapur.

Men have to say that physical appearance does not play a very important role when choosing a wife. It is true that you get attracted to somebody who is good looking initially, but for a life long lasting relationship it is not just looks when the initial physical part fizzles out men get interested in the inner persona and then accordingly chooses a wife.

But why does man give that dirty look towards the sinfully sexy ladies. “An Indian man is very insecure because he is essentially a mama's boy. Mothers are always there to tell them be cautious of those ultra sexy women. They are there to seduce you and make you bankrupt. Today by a liberated woman we mean a sexy woman who has a mind of her own so their sight terrifies and men immediately label them as whores. They are not the marriageable type because men fear that they are going to rule over them and make them slaves," says psychologist Dr. Anuja Singh.

Lust has been a part of our society ever since mankind. Sex is an important part of our society, but the typical Indian male will refuse to admit it. Hypocrisy and Indian male are closely connected. He is interested in sex but he will never admit it. He will love to sleep with an ultra sexy woman, have as much fun with her, but will never take her home to meet her mom type. The Indian woman has evolved, but the Indian man has not. He will get married to somebody who is submissive who has the typical doll like look probably chosen by her mother and at the same time fantasize or may be go back again and again to the ultra sexy woman keeping his marriage intact in public. The Indian man is quite an hypocrite. He will love to stare at the so called oomphy Mallika Sherawat, but will never admit it.

Fantasizing is always exciting, but reality is all about comfort and security. The choice most Indian male when it comes to choosing their wives is the type of girl who is going to be comfortable with his parents and even grand parents. With the urban lifestyle catching up and with day-to-day life becoming rather fast things are changing for better. But when it comes to choosing their wives the Indian male is moving at a rather snails pace.

The Indian man has not changed even after ages of civilization. A trophy wife is a pretty, young, delicate girl who will add to a man’s masculinity. Not even one percent of the Indian male can accept from the deepest core of his heart an independent woman who has a mind of his own. “It is a man who wants to take the final decision when it comes to money matters. So when it comes to choosing a wife, it is always a pretty, young goddess who is interested only in her home and kitchen,” adds Dr. Anuja.