Sex is a taboo among some religious sect and orthodox families and is a subject that is seldom discussed. The kids are left to fend for themselves when it comes to understanding it and sometimes the adults only feel the emotions and do nor know how to cope with such feeling or how to express them. So indulging in sex makes them feel guilty. If you suppress your sexual urges then there is a build-up of sexual energy in the body and this sexual energy can play havoc in the mind and body.
When Julia married into a religious family on the wedding night it self her husband told her that a woman must always uphold her modesty. Julia’s dreams crumbled. Like all other women she too was looking forward to a romantic and intimate relationship, but her husband made her feel embarrassed about her desires. She was torn between two worlds. She had her normal sexual urges and at the same time she wanted to be loved and approved by her husband. Gradually suppressing her sexual urge for years can develop hysterical tendencies like hitting and shouting. Sigmund Freud, the originator of psychotherapy has explained that ‘symptoms’ as nothing , but an attempt of individual’s attempt and struggle to cope with a hostile environment.
When sex is lacking in a relationship or completely absent then one could suffer from ‘Othello’s syndrome’. This syndrome is a suspicion that your partner is engaging in sex with someone else. No amount of convincing on the part of the innocent partner can make the other one believe her. Lack of sex can lead to hysterical outbursts. When a person is not getting enough sex there will be a tendency in him to look for other options like cyber sex and chat room sex. This kind of addiction will leave him disintegrated and psychologically destabilized. So it is always wise to have a healthy and loving attitude towards sex.
Psychologist Dr. Seema Hingorani narrates a case where an unmarried girl displayed paranoid schizophrenic tendencies. She was scared about being watched by some invisible person. She refused to come out of the house or for that matter open the doors and windows of the house. She would lock herself inside the house. She always considered herself as a sinner. Later it was found out that she was masturbating and castigating herself for it. She could not control the sexual urges the more she tried to control it the worse it got. She thought this was a sin and the guilt resulted in self punishment. Counseling made her realize that sexuality is a gift from God. She realized that human sexuality was necessarily for procreation.
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Thank-you Dr Sunilshroff. The 2nd urologist I went to did both tests & they were ok. The sling was inserted for helping me with uti's I was never uncontinent. That's the problem. I keep getting uti's with the sling & being on antibiotics. I thought someone could help me.
Very rightly said, Prema! In any case there is too much stress nowadays on the physicality of a relationship, like this blog indicates. Many couples share genuine affection without getting into bed all the time. The author of this blog must be informed that the spelling of Freud's first name is 'Sigmund', not 'Sigman'. Also, he founded the discipline of psychoanalysis, not psychotherapy.
Sex is an emotional and physical bonding and the physical bit is only a brief interlude of the two. The physical enjoyment though brief continues emtionally if the sex is healthy. It is more a long term stable relationship that provides the ultimate bliss in life.