14th February is the Valentine Day and is a day dedicated to love and friendship. A day to express our love itself. However in India there has recently been talibanization of this day with moral policing and what not.
India traditionally is a country where women have enjoyed equal rights as men and played an important role in the society. There was no discrimination. Look at the images of khajuraho and Konark, Look at the Ajantha Caves. We were much more advanced in our thinking and our views related to sex and friendship. Love in our society was always been openly expressed. Kam sutra is a unique text and speaks volumes about our insight into sex. It all changed as we entered the mughal period. The mughals having never seen women in their true form caused devastation in India and this resulted in protecting our women within the four walls of our houses and taking away all their rights. The purdah tradition and hiding our women behind the veil started during that period. With India’s freedom it is time we gave our women equal status as men as we have done traditionally in our culture. There is nothing greatly western about Valentine’s Day. It is now accepted universally and living in this global village – certain things are best accepted with grace rather than fighting it and giving it undue importance that it does not deserve. Medindia received an interesting item from one of its members. We are not sure about who has actually fabricated this piece but all the same it is hilarious and has an India twist to it. The member’s piece ( Chitra) is as follows -
We in India can have a claim on every development. It is St.Valentine! !! day in the west.
In spite of what you have been told by everyone, the truth is that Valentine’s Day originated hundreds of years ago, in India, and to top it all, in the state of Gujarat !!!
It is a well-known fact that Gujarati men, specially the Patels, continually mistreat and disrespect their wives (Patelianis) . One fine day, it happened to be the 14th day of February, one brave Patelani, having had enough “torture” by her husband, finally chose to rebel by beating him up with a Velan or Belan (rolling pin to make chapattis). Yes….the same Velan which she used daily, to make chapattis for him…. only this time, instead of the dough, it was the husband who was flattened.
This was a momentous occasion for all Gujarati women and a revolt soon spread, like wild fire, with thousands of housewives beating up their husbands with the Velan. There was an outburst of moaning – Chapatti-ed” husbands all over Anand and Amdavad.
The Patel men-folk quickly learnt their lesson and started to behave more respectfully with their Patelanis.
Thereafter, on 14th February every year, the womenfolk of Gujarat would beat up their husbands, to commemorate that eventful day – the wives having the satisfaction of beating up their husbands with the Velan and the men having the supreme joy of submitting to the will of the women they loved.
Soon The Gujju men realized that in order to avoid this ordeal they need to present gifts to their wives….they brought flowers and sweets. This is how the tradition – Velan time – began.
As Gujarat fell under the influence of Western culture, the ritual soon spread to Britain and many other Western countries, specifically, the catch words ‘Velan time’ !!! In course of time, their foreign tongues, this got anglicized to ‘Belantime or Velantime’ and then to ‘Valentine’.
And thereafter, 14th of February, came to be known as Valentine’s Day and now you know the true story of Valentine’s Day.Cheers!
From Chitra We need to change our attitude and this is an interesting quote from — Katharine Hepburn – “We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the friends, the teachers – but never blame yourself. It’s never your fault. But it’s always your fault, because if you wanted to change you’re the one who has got to change.”